Unhappy With Your Life? 7 Hard Truths You Need to Hear Now

You’re stuck living a mediocre life. What’s the worst thing? That you are aware of it, yet don’t do anything to change the situation. For some reason, you feel destined to live a life you’re unhappy with – that’s just how it is…Is it, though? Is this the real truth?

There is so much potential within you – so why play small, not allowing yourself to go after the life you truly want?

Is this the life you couldn’t wait to grow up to as a child? Is this how you pictured it would look like?

If it isn’t – be brave enough to admit it!

Once you admit to yourself that you’re unhappy with your life, only then you can start changing something.

In this article, you’ll learn the 7 hard truths you need to hear right now if you’re unhappy with your life.

Are you ready to listen up? Then, let’s get started!

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Your life is your responsibility

Have you ever wondered how 50 people could take the same online course, yet all of them would pursue different results?

They’ve all attended the same meetings, heard the same words, and accomplished the same tasks.

Yet, some of them were able to finally launch their businesses while others kept being stuck.

They were given the same knowledge, tools, and attention.

Putting privileges aside, the first hard truth you must embrace if you’re unhappy with your life is that life is what you make it.

It’s as simple as that.

Life is what you make out of it.

Your life is your responsibility – not anyone else’s.

If you’re unhappy with your current life situation, only you can improve it!

It sounds obvious, right?

Yet, how many times in a day do you blame external situations when something goes wrong?

What if you were finally honest with yourself?

It’s time to admit that, if you haven’t achieved something or aren’t where you imagined you would be in your journey by now, it is probably because you didn’t go all in.

So, take responsibility!

That’s the first step toward creating a life you’re happy and proud of.

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7 Hard Life Truths You Need to Hear Now if You Are Unhappy with Your Life

Your reaction is the only thing you have control over

Let’s picture this: you’re coming home from work and you get stuck in traffic.

How would you react?

Option 1 ➪ Complain until (and after) you get home, letting it ruin the rest of your day.
Option 2 ➪ Feel annoyed at first, but then take advantage of the fact you now have time to listen to an inspiring podcast.

It’s the same scenario.

What is the only thing that changes?

Your reaction.

You can’t have control over everything that might – or might not – happen in life.

The only thing you’re 100% in control of – in any situation – is your reaction.

It’s not what happens to you in life that defines you.

It’s the way you react to what happens to you in life that determines who you are.

Real growth starts with the right mindset

“Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right.”

– Henry Ford

Whether you believe or not in the ‘Law of Attraction’, it’s undeniable that your thoughts are one of your most powerful tools.

They shape your reality.

They determine the quality of your life.

So, if you’re unhappy with it – why not take a look at your mindset first?

On a daily basis, what are the affirmations you repeat in your head?

If they sound like or similar to:

“I am not good enough”

“I won’t make it”

“This is too hard for me”

“I will never understand and learn this”

“Why is everyone better than me at this?”

Let me tell you: something has to change!

Here is the third truth you need to hear: adopting a growth mindset will help you to stop living a life you’re unhappy and unsatisfied with.

You’re unhappy with it because you don’t even see that you can change your reality – if you only want to!

What are some ways to embrace a growth mindset?

Start by changing the narrative of the thoughts you’re playing in your head!

Some positive affirmations for a growth mindset are:

I can and I will!
I accept where I am today but am also committed to improve
There’s no failing, just learning
Every day, I am becoming a better version of myself
It might seem far from me, but I will get there
Every challenge is an opportunity for growth
I am resilient and can bounce back from setbacks
I can achieve anything I set my mind to
My past does not define my future

It won’t be easy at first to believe any of these.

After all, you’ve been repeating the same old, limiting beliefs for years and years.

It takes lots of time and patience, but you can change the narrative of your thoughts.

So, step by step, and day after day, lean towards a growth mindset and distance yourself from an unhappy life.

Self-compassion and self-love are key

The single most important relationship you’ll have in your life is the one with yourself.

Every other person you meet is temporary, but not you.

You will always have yourself: in your happiest moments, but also your darkest nights.

Here’s one question I’d like you to think of: “How do you feel about yourself?”.

Are you content with who you are? Or every time you walk in front of a mirror you hate what you see?

How do you talk to yourself when you make a mistake? Are you gentle and understanding, or are you bringing yourself down for any minor inconvenience?

Be a spectator of yourself for a day. What do you witness?

One of the most common causes of an unhappy life lies in being unhappy with oneself.

Why?

If you tend to think that happiness only comes from the outside, you’re missing out on one of the most important truths of life: happiness only comes from within.

It comes from within and can be projected on the outside.

But it all starts within you.

So, the best thing you could do if you’re unhappy with your life is to embrace this truth and focus on healing the relationship with yourself.

Look at the way you think or speak to yourself.

Be mindful of the way you treat your body.

Just observe.

If what you see is not how you would behave with a close friend or loved one, then why are you doing that to yourself?

Take care of yourself as you would do with someone you unconditionally love.

Because, at the end of the day, if there’s one person that deserves your total, unconditional love…well, that’s you.

The present is all you have

The reason why you are unhappy with your life is because you’re not…living it.

You’re either living in the past or stressing about the future.

You’re not focusing on what truly matters: the here and now.

One deliberating truth is that nothing else exists but this exact moment.

So if you’re happy now, you can’t be unhappy with your life!

If happiness is rooted in the present moment, unhappiness doesn’t exist.

It’s not here. It’s not real.

Embracing mindfulness can help you tune in with the here and now.

Here are some of the best ways to embrace the present moment:

Meditate every day, for at least 5 minutes
Do an hourly check-in with your body: “How does it feel?”
Practice the “Awareness technique” and name:
- 5 things you see
- 4 things you hear
- 3 things you touch
- 2 things you smell
- 1 thing you taste
Take deep breaths on the count of 4
Go for a silent walk
Practice mindful eating
Avoid multitasking

Once you start living more in the present moment, your unhappiness will slowly fade away…like it was never here.

If you’re not clear about what you want, you’ll never get it

Unclarity goes hand in hand with unhappiness.

How many times do people go on and on complaining about their lives, every single day?

Then, when you ask them “So what would you change?”; they go silent.

Let’s pretend I asked you: “What does make you happy?” or “What does a happy life look like to you?”.

Would you be able to give me a straight answer?

If yes, that’s great! You’re one step ahead!

If the answer is ‘no’, how can you be unhappy about something if you don’t know what happiness looks like to you?

In this case, the truth is that you’re unhappy with your life because you have no idea what you want out of it!

The good news, though, is that you can change this.

You can get clear on what you want.

How?

Well, you could start by listing what you don’t want.

Usually, thinking of what you don’t want to happen is way easier than expressing what you do want.

So start here: make a list of things you don’t want in your life and then – based on that list – create an opposite one.

That is the list you want to be daily looking at!

No one cares! 🙂

Ready for the most liberating truth of them all?

This is the truth that has the potential to instantly lift your mood whenever you’re unhappy with your life, so…wanna hear it?

No one cares!

No one!

It might sound depressing at first, but isn’t that also so liberating?

You’re free to do anything you want with your life because you don’t owe anything, to anyone!

It is your life!

And, for how much you think that others will judge you and your choices, the truth is that: no one cares!

Let them judge!

They probably will, for about 10 minutes. But then, guess what will happen?

They will move on with their lives!

Related: If you’re interested in knowing why you think others care more than they actually do, I recommend checking out this article.

Everyone is so self-absorbed with their own life situation that your life – and what you do with it – won’t be such a big matter in people’s minds.

So, whenever you’re:

Stressing over the thought of being judged
Resisting from making that big move
Playing it small so as not to be a threat to others
Forcing yourself to do something you don’t want to do just to be liked
Talking yourself out of something only because you’re scared

In all of those scenarios, I want you to think: no one cares!

So you might just do what you really want to do 🙂

Do what makes you happy. That’s how you live a happy life!

Now that you’ve learned about the 7 truths in life that are keeping you unhappy, you have a blueprint to create a life you’re proud of!

Q: “If you feel unhappy with your life, what is the hardest truth you need to embrace ASAP?” – Feel free to share your honest thoughts in a comment below! 🙂

Until next time!